How to relax when your boss is stressing you in 5 easy steps

Going through a stressful period made me realize that one of the most important stress-factors in my life was my boss. As a student I am stressed because I have exams in this period, and also have to go to work, but it seems that this stressful period never ends, and it even gets worse when the boss asks me to do things faster, better, finish tasks sooner, etc.

My days at work seem endless when my boss is stressing me. Working under pressure feels awful, but when my boss is also stressing me, it seems that the work I have to do, doubles.

I think that I am not the only person in this situation, and because I think that there are many in similar situations, with bosses that stresses them, I decided to write this little guide to help you all pass those hard periods at work, at school, at college.

1) STOP. Evaluate the situation. First of all, when your boss asks you to do something fast, to finish a task sooner or other stressful requests, first of all STOP ! Ok, now evaluate the situation, and try to find the best possible way to do that without freaking out, try to keep your calm, get a breath of fresh air, drink a glass of cold water (water is your best friend when you are stressed, Do we use water and it’s benefits the proper way ? ).

2) Ignore the "you have to finish this till X time" - don't get your mind trapped, thinking that you have to finish that, because that will get you stressed, and will make things even worse. Think of the task that you have to finish, find the best way to do it, break it into smaller doable parts, then start finishing those smaller tasks, and you will see the "puzzle" assembling faster than you could imagine. (this is a trick, that if you trap and block your mind on the time factor, your mind will freeze instantly and you will run out of ideas, and lose your originality, etc, so instead of gaining time, you will lose precious time, and never get that task done in time).

3) Have self confidence ! Instead of thinking that your boss is stupid, that you should quit your job, or that nothing goes well, try thinking that you are just the best person for that job, because compared to others you know how to manage stress (yes you do !), and you know how to solve all the problems, even under stress. Don't even think that you will not finish the task, or that you can't do it, because your mind works on the principle - "Your wish is my command" - which means that if you think negatively about yourself, that thing has 99% chance of happening right away.

4) Think positive. Never give up. Trust yourself and every time you will get more confidence when you'll see that you can do things that you didn't think you could do. Positive thinking is a great process that helps you fight the stress. (more on this topic here - Think positive, act positive!)

"Positive thinking can be a way to overpass all your obstacles and fulfill your hopes and dreams. It is a way of living, an attitude that can accomplish the best results.By thinking positive you can draw upon you happiness, successes, an excellent health and you can obtain whatever you are willing to."

5) Relax ! The most important thing on the list. Never freak out, never get nervous, trust yourself ! Now close your eyes, and repeat these words in your mind: "I am calm, and relaxed, and I know the answer to all my problems. I know how to solve them, and as soon as I will open my eyes I will feel more relaxed, and I will start working better and with higher efficiency. (more here - Relax, take it easy! )

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• Relax, take it easy!
• Do we use water and it’s benefits the proper way ?

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5 Ways to stay focused

Each of us lose control of our mind during the day, and sometimes we get tired quickly if we can't reach back to the focus state. Therefore, I will present several techniques to stay focused.

For me there are so many things to do, e-mails to read, articles to write, documents that have to be done at work on schedule, that I easily lose my focus. In my case, working on many things doesn't work out, because I lose my focus, and I can't do any of them right.

So, here are some techniques, I’ve learnt from a friend, not so long time ago:

1. Define your goal. Start your work by having a goal, a clear point of what goal you need to achieve. Do not hurry, and take your time, to do this, and to set your target. Without setting a goal, your focus will be lost immediately. You can help yourself doing this, by writing down your goals. Once you've done that, if you ever lose your focus, just take a look to the paper and you'll regain your focus.

2. Stay relaxed. Staying relaxed is very important, not only because stress is one of the worst enemies, but also because working on stress make your work turning into junk. Stress will not let you focus, and will not let you finish your work on time. In addition, even if you do finish on time, and have your work done, you'll be so tired. Staying relaxed is hard, I have to admit, but try to drink a glass of water when you feel you lose control and begin to feel stressed. Try to focus on your breath once in a while, and try not to stay on your chair all day.

3. Track your progress. Tracking your progress will regain your self confidence, will convince your mind that you are making progress, and that you must continue to achieve what you want. Tracking gives you a wide-angle view regarded to what you have done to that point. By tracking, you can also measure and divide your effort equally so you can reach the end.

4. Plan ahead your work. Planning ahead, is almost as important as tracking, the only difference is that by planning you will know what you have to do next, and you won't lose your focus. By doing this, I found that looking at goals and at tasks will help you understand better what you have to do, will help you do it faster and better.

5. Have a positive state of mind. Having a positive state of mind will help you get your work done well by helping your mind do good things, better things. Having good habits can consistently help you get more things done better. I found that I get very productive when I have positive thoughts and when my mind is in a positive state. Stay focused and follow these patterns.

Here is an example of how I have applied these techniques in blogging:

- write 2 articles every day
- write 50 articles a month
- plan topics for future posts
- getting up early, and start writing a post before going to work
- go to sleep at a normal hour, so I will not be tired the next day
etc.

These 5 techniques can be applied with success in any domain, and you can apply them every day in your life, with all the things that you have to do. However, what worked and works for me, might not work for you, but you can try it anyway, you might have a better day y doing this. If you have any other techniques that work better than the 5 I wrote, please leave a comment.

Written by: Alexandru Hategan

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